Understand the Opposite Sex

a man tries to change a woman’s feelings when she is upset by offering solutions to her problems.

note for a man: woman talk about problems to get close! not necessarily to get solutions! woman just wants to share her feelings and wants you to listen.

a woman tries to change a man’s behavior when he makes mistakes by giving advice and criticism.

note for a woman: man does not need advice unless when he request it. if they make mistakes and you’re giving your advice, it makes him feel that you are criticize him. remember! man just need your support! not your babbling advice.

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differences between MAN and WOMEN is how they cope with stress.

MAN feels better by solving problems by themselves. he would never burden another with his problems. if he cant find a solution, he does sumthing to forget his problem.

WOMEN feels better by talking about her problems. for women, sharing problems with another is a sign of love and trust. not a burden. she feels good when she had loving friends to share her feelings and problem.

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MAN have a win/lose philosophy: i want to win and i dun care if u lose.

*itu sebab lelaki suke berebut2!*

WOMAN lived by a lose/win philosophy: i lose so tat u can win.

*itu sebab perempuan akan mengalah kalau ade org ke-3 dlm hubungan!*

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how to motivate the opposite sex!

MEN are motivated and empowered when THEY FEEL NEEDED.

WOMEN are motivated and empowered when THEY FEEL CHERISHED.

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MAN becomes silent when they have problems and get stress. he will remains silent and no one are allowed to help him unless they ask to be help. women always make mistakes by asking and be caring.

note for women —> leaves man alone when they become silent. man just need a few time to cool down and solve their own problems.

WOMEN becomes silent when they are upset and mad. she will not remains silent if there sumone listen to her. man always make mistakes by leave the woman alone to solve their own problems. note for man —> listen to women. they just want sumone to hear their heart.

my conclusion from:

MEN are from mars, WOMEN are from venus by John Gray.

p/s: aku curik dari atien :D